📚女文青閱讀筆記📚【自傳】野心的建議 (林真理子)

野心的建議

這是一本擺明車馬,表揚野心的自傳。

林真理子透過分享寫作路的經歷,帶出「野心有助成功」的體悟。除了這主觀的意見,書中亦提及不少日本文壇的現象,例如當今美女作家的貧乏。

林真理子在肯定野心的同時,亦提醒各讀者,光有野心是不夠的。

「如果野心是車子的前輪,努力就是後輪。如果只有前輪或後輪,車子肯定無法前進。」
「巧妙地讓野心和努力保持平衡時,就表示你擁有的野心是健全的。」
「不幸,是自己不想努力。」

另外,大家還要學會自省:「冷靜地想一想,自己到底還有什麼地方不足」「研擬更有深度的戰略」

亦要適時增強野心:「告訴自己:『上天給的時間有限』」

吾最認同的見解,不是野心的重要性,而是人要認清自己的嫉妒心和想要成功的心。林真理子曾一度在三流公司hea,突然一天收到同期同學得獎的消息,「整個人呈現僵直的狀態,眼淚不自覺奪眶而出」,才明白到自己有多渴望靠文字創作成名,重燃鬥心。

作者之所以受落這般激將法,是本身就很有自信吧?小時經歷同學成立的「讓林真理子哭百次會」(日本學生被過度抑壓所以有這麼變態的念頭?)還意識不到自己長得抱歉,成年後亦無懼資格不足,大大咧咧地創立許許多多的美女論。看來要野心發揮作用的前提是有足夠的自信。

接下來分享吾【不認同】書裡頭的地方。

林真理子認為新世代的野心太薄弱:「更具體的說法就是一輩子穿uniqlo,一輩子吃松屋就滿足了。」這…… 她知不知道,社會上大部份人也活在這水平之下,人工微薄得連連鎖店的東西也買不起?況且,人類在滿足basic needs後,與其任野心擴大,追求更高級的生活,不如自己節約一點,為更窮困的人留點福利,這比一個人盡享奢華來得有意義吧。

她又指:「上了年紀還穿著廉價衣物的人,自然而然就會散發出一種失敗氣息。」不過,也有很節省,但姿態優雅的人啊。雖然佔的是少數,但確實有這種人的。單靠行頭來評論一個人會判斷錯誤啊。

林真理子雖一方面列出很多媽媽傳授的處世道理,但一方面抱怨: 「難過自己為甚麼會出生在鄉下一個無足輕重的家庭」以上種種顯得她有點抬舉名利了。

不確定這句是不是為胖子聲討的說話,反正身型略胖的她說:「體型就如野心,而體力就是上進心」吾真不敢苟同。瘦子也可以很有力量啊!多少健美人士吃很多但運動更多呢!倒是胖子大多沒節制,缺乏活力。

還有寫推薦序的幾位都附和作者,一一否認「小確幸」和「安於現狀」的心態,認為會使野心停滯。這種想法未免太極端了。努力過後未見成功,需要以感恩的心去等待。少了這份欣賞沿途風光的雅興,相信未到終點便會想放棄了。


 

【金句】

「做了之後的後悔,會一天比一天薄弱;但不做的後悔,卻是一天比一天強大。」

「利用搭電車的三十分看書讀報的人,和在電車上拼命滑手機的人之間的落差,會隨年齡越來越大。」

「如果在有魅力的男性層層包圍下,還能繼續深愛你的丈夫,就證實你和丈夫之間的愛情,是至高無上的。」

她那些【生動,附喜感的比喻】例子:

「像這種我真的很想用麻布袋直接裝袋丟掉的過去,真的是太多太多了。」

「我真的會很想為它們針炙,在她們的腦袋上扎幾針,看能不能清醒一點。」


林真理子的寫作模式:「用隨筆的方式,把從前沒人聽過的女性真心話寫出來。然後出版成一本書!」

林真理子的寫作觀:「寫書必須讓讀者看到我的內心深處,所以我必須剖析那個我不想正視的自己。」

林真理子如何看散文:「隨筆是有什麼就立刻反應,就像放煙火,讓花開一樣,反射神經要非常靈敏。」

她持續寫日記:「雖然日子很苦,我依舊持續記錄我的谷底生活,這就是我野心的養分。」

林真理子的成功習慣: (很多成功人士都分享過,並不新奇)

1. 把時間當兩倍使用
2. 先一夜好眠,再思考
3 和快樂,運勢強的朋友交往


 

【本書結構】

章節的名稱跟內容不甚相符。依我所見,那五章的內容實質為:

1. 野心的重要性
2. 階級差異
3. 職場成敗
4. 針對女人寫
5. 妄想力及其他習慣 (短)

一個主旨分好幾章寫:

p43-44 拒絕野心男
p44-46 故意醜
p46-48 跟系井先生工作
p49-50 改方向
p51-52 現在的人很少野心 (這章才回到主題)
p53-54 太乖
p55 怕被替代
p56 現在的人無欲 (這章才回到主題)
p57-58 現代人無老去的憂慮 (這章才回到主題)
p59-61 媽
p62-65 媽  (以「我想再談多一點有關我母親」開首,可見作者為了遵守四頁一章的格式,而中斷寫作。)

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My 6 Writing Promises

1. Stay Honest

Authenticity in my writing is my principle and my niche.

Don’t worry about imperfection, because the world and its truth is imperfect.

As a truth teller, my writing is bound to be not as perfectly put together as most commercial writings out there which have entirely different intention to begin with.

Don’t let perfectionism encumbers my production.

 

2. Keep It Short

If I really want my writing to be well-polished, “minus something” instead of “add something”, just like what Coco Chanel taught us — always look at the mirror and take off one clothing item before heading out.

Simplicity equals beauty.

 

3. Re-read from Time to Time

Once I published a blog post, I rarely go back to read it, let alone edit it.

Now I know how I have missed my chances to develop those ideas.

From now on, I will spare the time that I read someone else’s blogs on my writing when I feel bored.

 

4. Talk about Life Issues

Looking gorgeous and feeling happy are equally important. The thing is: Which of them do I find more fascinating to talk about?

Life issue is what concerns me more.

So share things that the whole humanity can benefit.

Outer beauty brings immediate effect. Mental peace comes slower but it brings more long-lasting joy.

 

5. Share ASAP

別等到有機會出書時才把想法共諸於世。

想想當初你是為了甚麼記下那些感悟的?不就是想與跟你有相似遭遇的人分享,幫助他們釋懷嗎?

那就要把握時間及時分享了。

把可以獨立成文的,具時效性的文章先發表,其他可留待日後收錄書中。

 

6. Share, Not Show Off

記住,整理文字是為了整理自己的想法,不是向人曬優秀。

別急於發表,先理清思緒,這樣,你的作品才有基本的水準。

不必追求驚為天人的文字,而是讀起來容易明白,合情合理的文字。

 📝女文青談寫📝抄襲疑雲

臨近暑假的一個早上,收到professor急召我回校的電話。

吾說電話上談不行嗎?她沒解釋,只是很嚴肅地說要見面談。

吾嚇得即日回去,否則當晚一定胡思亂想睡不著。

話說吾同時修讀這為professor的兩個course:detective和gothic literature。

因為吾的兩篇論文風格太懸殊,她以為是請人代寫的。

「怎可能!我是絕對不會讓自己的名字印在一篇非出自我筆的文章上。」

吾極力否認,加上其他professors也認為 “it isn’t her style (to hire someone to write for her)”,教授就不再懷疑了。

這件事令吾最深刻的體驗文字創作者的多面性。

人有不同面向,原來字也有不同的化身。

有時重讀自己的舊文,那些勸人的話自己到今天也做不到,還真不敢相信是吾寫的。

「是這幾年不但沒達到目標高度,好像還倒退了呢……」陷入的自我批判裡。

📚女文青閱讀筆記📚Ain’t No Role Model 求林真理子的翻譯作品

It’s quite a nightmare for me not being able to find any female writer as a role model in Hong Kong.

There just to be two of them but one was married to a tycoon and quickly stopped writing about love and its agony which once gave her fame.

不太能接受導人愛情至上的言情小說作者嫁給富商。她的婚姻裡有她筆下主角所追求的東西嗎?相信沒有。

真有點氣,對外的她宣揚這一端的思想,私下的她卻奉行那一端的做法。

The other one isn’t married but she lives off from what she wrote ten years ago. I saw her books with new covers and titles but just the same stuff inside.

Well, I can’t say who is being the more unprofessional writer.

The contemporary female writer I recently look up to is not Chinese (though I hope there is one) but a Japanese called 林真理子. This lady manages to acutely points out the ridicules of women whether they are single, married or divorced in a humorous, self-mocking kind of way.

I wish there were more of her work translated into Chinese but so far there are only a few of them on the market.

 📝女文青談寫📝奉行「片段寫作」Write — Whenever, Wherever!

夜裡靈感來襲,為了抓住好點子,零願離開被窩,打開燈拿起筆。

以為寫完可以睡了?幾十秒之後又來一個突襲。如是者,起來又躺下,躺下又起來,直到上天想籍我的口說的話差不多了。

為甚麼總在睡前文思如泉?放過我吧!

其實我知道是甚麼原因。因為做夢前後腦波較弱,潛意識比較活躍。

我必須接受一點::my writing does not start at the desk, but it starts when I am in bed, in the loo, on the training. When I am at the desk, I am not exactly writing, I am already editing. In order to catch all the ideas that come to me all of a sudden, I must bring a notebook with me all the time.

I remember my friend Eugene jokingly commented on Sabrina’s wall that she could have completed her honours project if she had written an equal amount of words on her word document as on her Facebook status updates.

Well it is no joke indeed. In Japan, there is a young lady who got her daily mail posts collaborated and published in the form of a novel.

Lately, I have been pondering upon the possibility of writing a novel, or at least a chapter or two on my phone, if I can easily recap my fights with my boyfriend on instant messages to my friends despite how complicated my personal stories are.

It’s not about the writing platform, but how badly we want to express something.

Let’s just write, whenever and wherever we feel like it.

 📝女文青談寫📝如何選擇筆記本:橫紋?空白?格紋?

觀察路人並收集生活寫照,應該是所有文字創作人的習慣,吾家裡就有半個抽屜滿的筆記本。

近年有不少以寫作人日常為題的書籍出版,其實作家們源源不絕的寫作題材,多少要歸功於他們的日誌(journal)。

橫紋、空白、格紋的筆記本,吾都用過,讓吾倣效網路上的手帳族,分享一點心得吧!

空白的筆記本(日文:無地;英文:plain)做draft或flow chart是不錯的,但不適合用來寫有字數限制的學術或商業文章。

橫紋的筆記本(英文:ruled)要按自己的字體小心挑,過寬過窄都有礙寫作欲,顏色也不能太深,否則很礙眼。

最近試用格紋的,感覺很不錯,有一直寫下去把格子填滿的動力。(這一點,九宮格筆記術一書提過。)還有一個好處,就是字型再潦亂,也能靠四方格維持一定程度的整潔感。很多時候,一個想法突然冒起,吾迅速寫下之後,就沒有耐性作進一步的描述和探究。可是,格紋能驅使吾去填滿它,作更深層次的思考。

有使用筆記本的你,認為哪種款式最好呢?歡迎留言分享啊。

Benefits of journaling with gambol notebooks

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All my gambol notebooks have unique covers.

When I journal, I always use a pen because it makes journaling easier. If I use a pencil instead, then I will also need an eraser and a sharpener, and if I have to carry so many things with me, I will leave journaling at home and I won’t be writing as much as I want to be. I believe when we make something easier to do, we more likely to do it. By the same token, I choose gambol notebooks as my writing buddies.

Benefits of journaling with gambol notebooks:

1. It’s affordable (range from HKD10 to HKD15 at most stationery’s)

2. It’s available anywhere and never sold out (once you are done with one gambol, you can buy a new one whether you are in Hong Kong, Kowloon or the New Territories and continue journaling)

3. It has the perfect A5 size (it fits most purses so you can carry it around; you can place it on your palm or legs and write without having a desk)

4. It’s light (so don’t make excuses not having it with you at various occasions)

The only drawback is its slightly dumb cover. But its lack of style gives me motivation to write more often so that one day these notebooks shine with substance. Actually there are four colours available (green, orange, blue and grey) and I tried to play with that. I used orange for my spring notebooks, green for my summer notebooks, blue for my fall notebooks and grey for my winter notebooks, but later I decorated them with magazine clippings and photos. Not only did it add a little glam to my notebooks, but I could also know what topics I was interested in at a certain period of my life at a glance.

I hope my little sharing gives you some inspiration. If you have any interesting ways of journaling to share, do leave a comment down below.

A side note: Lately I have been using a slimmer, clean notebook and abandon the “one page a date” method which I did with my gambol notebooks. Now I just write down my stream of thoughts in a flow. But I do write down from which date to which date at the top as weekly compartment. I also use symbols in front of each thought for easy categorising in the future. I am still experimenting with different notebooks and ways of documenting my life and will share with you whether I will go back to gambol later.