不必做到最好

凡事不必做到最好,做得就可以了。

「最」這個字有競爭的意味,在追求完美的同時,難免會有被打敗的恐懼。

把拿第一名的概念拋棄,一心想著如何把自己的事做好,不妒忌亦不害怕別人跟自己一樣優秀,容許其他人分享到成功的滋味,這樣的人才是真正的自信,真正的王者。

Bankers Take The Road Taken, Bakers Take The Road Not Taken 銀行家與麵包師的路

迎合社會的標準,比起走Robert Frost的The Road Not Taken要輕鬆。

獲得世俗認為的成功條件也要經過許多考驗,但身邊大多數人都在嚮往和稱羨這些東西,辛苦好像也是正常事,馬上又說服自己走下去。

順隨自己所定義的美好日子,走上舉目無親的路,遇到不測之風雲,誰膽怯誰就哭著折返。

在這資本和大企業世代,就精神層面上遇到的壓力而言,當個baker的路比當個banker的路要艱辛。

追求世人普遍認為的「成功」:美貌、地位、權力、名譽等等,過程也許辛苦,但碰璧的時候,想到身邊所有人都在維此奔馳,就能繼續。

實現自己心中的理想生活:去義教、吃素、領養小動物、開畫廊…… 若遇困難,相對上容易放棄,會質疑自己苦苦堅持的傻勁,因為主流媒體不會提醒你從事這項工程的價值。為免陷入自我懷疑之中,必須主動接觸有共同愛好的同伴,以供給繼續努力的士氣。

周國平先生說過:「一個平庸的人,即使他在名利場上風光十足,他也只是在混日子,至多是混得好一些罷了。」雖然The Road Not Taken比較難行,但能把路走完的,定是位非凡勇者。

📌Get Things Done📌(9) Journaling

成年後所看的成功學書本能堆出一座山吧。總括來說成功的鐵三角是:規劃、執行、檢討,而確保這三者緊密聯繫的工具就是看起來很平凡但其價值取決於其用家的筆記本。

一疊潔白而紋理整齊,暗示無限可能的紙張,配上或甜美花俏,或高雅幹練的硬皮封套,筆記本就是有魅力教我們在還有存貨的情況下再買一本。

不過,筆記本收藏家,不一定是筆記本活用家,事實上,大多數的筆記本只寫了頭三數頁,便淪為家中的雞肋。為甚麼呢?因為大家都有一個繆誤,就是筆記本一定要是漂漂亮亮的,所以只在規劃的時候用到它,忽略了它在執行和檢討計劃時的功效。

一般人只會在筆記本寫下年度目標或當天任務,用法跟行事曆沒兩樣,成功者則懂得在筆記本記錄工作進度,以及過程中的身理和心理狀態。作息時間、飲食內容、運動時間、點子、外來的知識,都是成功者喜歡記錄的項目。

記下這些珍貴的資料,等於擁有一本「自我觀察筆記本」,讓你審視每個行動及其結果,細心研究哪些該部留、哪些該修改、哪些該捨棄。

不過,在擴展筆記本的用途之前,先養成隨身帶備筆記本的習慣吧。很多人沒執行的任務其實都是被遺忘的願望。寫下的志向,必需經常翻閱,大腦才不會忘掉,所以筆記本應放在伸手可及的位置。

This is the end of the Get Things Done series. I hope you have enjoyed it and hopefully found some ideas useful. Thanks for reading till the end. You deserve to be a winner!

📌Get Things Done📌(8) Replicate Your Success

Review your life and recall any achievements regardless of its scale, because success, big or small, is made up of the same thing: passion, practice and persistence.

If you have kept your promise and accomplished a task singlehandedly even for one time, you can apply the same effort to another task.

In my notebook, I write down anecdotes like choosing a greek salad over a frappuccino at the coffee shop so as to remind myself my capability to make conscious choices.

最近,房間一隅擺了個紙袋,一個剪裁、紙質、版面都很簡潔的紙袋,我用它來盛載空瓶子。看著它變滿,也彷彿看到自己為保養所付出的努力,並提醒自己,要把這份努力套用於生命中其他事務上。

自信不是感性,自信是理性的。

(1)
自信不是宗教,不是叫你相信未見過的東西,也不是甚麼強力禱告,催眠說自己「一定得」。

自信的本義是看清楚自己的能力,並相信高能力自能為你帶來的高回報。

沒自信的人,不是不相信自己,是沒能力讓自己可信。

要解決自信不足的問題,先要解決能力不足的問題。

(2)
比賽前已大抵知道自己大約的表現,很了解自己的缺點並盡量避免犯錯,這是自信。

倘若落敗了,自信者會歸因於經驗或狀態,而不是否定個人能力或努力。

他們有正確觀念,明白是實力定勝負,不靠天才或運氣,願意在控制範圍內出盡全力。

有充份經歷,便能按外界條件推測自己的位置,不會擔心太多。

疏於練習,沒有成功或失敗的data,才會在戰鬥時會心虛。

(3)
比起與生俱來的天才,經過一番努力打拼的人,更有自信,因為他所擁有的是有跡可尋的,不是上天選中而贈予的。

不是別人給的,自己就可以再創造,因此不怕失去。

📌Get Things Done📌(5) Pair It With The Right Music

We all have days when we are less vibrant and need some external forces.

The one thing that I know can immediately boost my energy level is coffee, but I am very aware of what depletion it does to my energy storage.

Besides, any substance that goes into your body just add workload to your organs and we don’t want that especially when you are weak-minded.

Where do I seek help from when I am so tired that even changing the bedding seems like a unachievable goal?

The music library!

I got this inspiration from my yoga classes, where I find me being more balance and strong if the teacher plays some Indian or Chinese spiritual music compared with those who don’t.

The music thing may not be a big deal to advanced yogi, but for beginners like me, what’s playing at the background can do wonders.

Then I start implementing this solution to my writing projects.

I play the same soothing song whenever I feel like slightly unmotivated or a bit distracted from the business of the day.

Usually I can get into the flow within five to ten minutes.

Even Murakami Haruki, the most reputable contemporary writer in Japan, adopted this trick while he was writing Norwegian Wood in a hotel.

Music is a cool agent. With the right music, one can achieve everything.

My 6 Writing Promises

1. Stay Honest

Authenticity in my writing is my principle and my niche.

Don’t worry about imperfection, because the world and its truth is imperfect.

As a truth teller, my writing is bound to be not as perfectly put together as most commercial writings out there which have entirely different intention to begin with.

Don’t let perfectionism encumbers my production.

 

2. Keep It Short

If I really want my writing to be well-polished, “minus something” instead of “add something”, just like what Coco Chanel taught us — always look at the mirror and take off one clothing item before heading out.

Simplicity equals beauty.

 

3. Re-read from Time to Time

Once I published a blog post, I rarely go back to read it, let alone edit it.

Now I know how I have missed my chances to develop those ideas.

From now on, I will spare the time that I read someone else’s blogs on my writing when I feel bored.

 

4. Talk about Life Issues

Looking gorgeous and feeling happy are equally important. The thing is: Which of them do I find more fascinating to talk about?

Life issue is what concerns me more.

So share things that the whole humanity can benefit.

Outer beauty brings immediate effect. Mental peace comes slower but it brings more long-lasting joy.

 

5. Share ASAP

別等到有機會出書時才把想法共諸於世。

想想當初你是為了甚麼記下那些感悟的?不就是想與跟你有相似遭遇的人分享,幫助他們釋懷嗎?

那就要把握時間及時分享了。

把可以獨立成文的,具時效性的文章先發表,其他可留待日後收錄書中。

 

6. Share, Not Show Off

記住,整理文字是為了整理自己的想法,不是向人曬優秀。

別急於發表,先理清思緒,這樣,你的作品才有基本的水準。

不必追求驚為天人的文字,而是讀起來容易明白,合情合理的文字。