由少女變成輕熟女 看法上有何差距?

身邊的朋友同事親戚相繼結婚,再看看身穿校服的臉孔,不得不承認已經從少女慢慢變成輕熟女。今天,想略略整理一下兩個階段的想法有甚麼改變。

健康
少女:昨天熬夜,看不出來吧?
輕熟女:運動和吃溫熱品是必需的,睡眠時間也要守住。

愛情
少女:倒追Ok呀!跟蹤校草是消遣活動之一。
輕熟女:伴侶要對自己好。

金錢
少女:有多少就花多少吧。
輕熟女:儲錢屬於固定支出。消費要冷靜。

家庭
少女:爸媽好煩唷!
輕熟女:爸媽幫我煩少很多東西。

少女:爸媽的想法為什麼總跟我相沖?
輕熟女:當然不一樣啦,成長環境有差嘛!

朋友
少女:跟我喜歡相同的歌手,一起追星不溫習的是好朋友。
輕熟女:不品評我的興趣、口味、價值觀的便是朋友。好朋友?不存在。

消費勿忘生產

別老以為自己有甚麼了不起,廿年前你只是個剛學走的黃毛小子,連自己的名字都不會寫;不想想當初是誰把你養育成人,教你認字、寫字、讀字。

你所擁有的一切,都得靠別人幫助。今早這片面包,是誰栽種小麥、收割小麥、發明磨粉機、磨粉、發明汽車、為汽車加油、運送、開店?

經過一大輪工序,這片包送到你面前了,你將在生產線上投入甚麼貢獻?

一般人會想:「我付錢就是貢獻啦!」But are you really the end of the production line? If so, that slice of bread is under priced. 售價如此便宜,因為假設了用家在消費後會投入這個生產系統。

希望大家在吃每一口飯的同時,思考自己吃飽了,要為眾生服務甚麼,不然就是白吃。

當然會有人說,這樣想太多了,會瘋掉的。但就因為現代人都不愛思考,才落得今人自私自利的風氣。 到底是想多一點對世界比較好,還是甚麼也不管吃了再算好?

📚女文青閱讀筆記📚吾是語錄迷 I’m Obsessed With Quotes

對於格言、諺語、名句的信任程度,在吾意識到的時候,已發展到比任何常規課本要高。

自中學時代便對短小精練的句子特別敏感,甚至寫起像「別讓乾了的指甲油擔誤你的時間」的paradox。

進大學閱讀更多的書,出席更多講座,有更多機會依照李欣頻創意學的建議,積極收藏跟自己的原則同屬性的精句。

看書做筆記是不用說的,連在漆黑的電影館,也借用手機的燈,抄下醒神的對白,連在電梯聽到一句「我說工作辛苦是沒有排他性的」也要抄下。

如是者,摘下語錄的本子裝滿一個紙箱,有空就重讀,反覆提醒自己。

大概因為喜歡篤定的感覺吧!而quotation大多有鮮明的人生指向。

Not yet 100% minimalist? Life isn’t a race.

My minimalism journey began in around 2010 when was back from my summer trip in Australia. Around that time, several books (by Japanese/American authors mostly) related to decluttering were published. Much inspired, I started incorporating the concept the next year.

When I stand in front of my closet today, I can still detect one or two pieces of clothing that I am not perfectly happy with, or I don’t wear very often. Does that make me a less qualified minimalist? Probably. But it’s okay!

It was only a few years ago that I started mindfully shopping. I accept and appreciate the pacing of the whole learning progress. Some people may learn faster than I do, but every person is unique, so is his/her experience.

Life is never a race. If it were, there would only be one winner — the one who possess the greatest amount of assets — while the rest of the population are losers. This is certainly not the way the universe is created to be.

📚女文青閱讀筆記📚Journaling入門書:新日記 The New Diary

newdiary

有關journaling的翻譯書不多,如此有系統,且包攬各層面,又多名人例子和引文的更是少了。從新舊式日記的比較(註1),到解答如何著手寫日記(註2),到介紹日記的功能性(註3),向讀者推廣journaling的概念。

(註1:作者所謂的舊日記,就是流水作業,工工整整的diary;新日記(即日誌),就是不拘泥於紀錄當天活動,具實驗性的journaling。)

(註2:《新日記》教你選適合的日誌本,教你各種寫作形式。你會發現,日誌不必寫在上鎖日記本,也不必以天氣開首。)

(註3:日誌可以是治療工具、可以協助分析夢和性慾、可以訓練寫作技巧。)

這本具份量感的書,在書店的陳列架上特別出眾,有超過二十年日記寫作經驗的吾早就留意到了。價錢不貴,為甚麼不買它,而去圖書館借閱呢?

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When Watching YouTube Beauty Gurus… Something To Bear In Mind

“Beauty” has now become one of the mostly watched categories on YouTube. Some of those videos are so well presented that they just aren’t meant to be missed/skipped. Popular beauty vloggers one by one ventured a lucrative business in the real world, from getting sponsorship, attending events overseas to becoming a spokesperson.

I, too, have subscribed to more than a dozen of beauty channels. Having those videos playing at the background while changing and getting ready in the morning is one of my favourite things to do.

But as much as I appreciate and admire their sweet and lighthearted presentations, I am levelheaded enough to know that not all contents are relevant to me and neither are all tips applicable to me.

Here are some areas I think everyone should pay attention to if they want to truly benefit from watching beauty videos. (I am going to include some of my favourite beauty YouTubers as examples annotated with why I can’t take their advice too blindly even though I admire them so much.)

1. When watching skincare videos, compare your skin type with hers.

lightbycoco
Coco from lightbycoco offers many awesome minimalist tips but she is a Caucasian so as an Asian, I shouldn’t buy every single products she recommends.

2. When wathing fashion videos, compare your commuting route and work environment with hers.

melodeemorita
I love re-watching Melodee Morita’s What’s in My Bag video but her style is a bit too dressy as I travel and work in a totally different environment.

3. When watching makeup videos, compare your facial features with hers.

anniejaffrey
I am moved by Annie Jaffrey’s passion in makeup but her outstanding facial features allow her to use some bold colours that won’t work on me.

4. When watching hair-do videos, compare your hair amount, your tools and the time you have in the morning with hers.

jessicaharlow
Jessica Harlow has a great personality and exudes so much positivity and motivation on YouTube but her hair is so thick that the way it allows her to style it won’t apply to me.

In short, be realistic. Know the discrepancies between you and your idols on YouTube and make right adjustments. Beauty YouTubers are afterall much more resourceful than ordinary people as they run their channels as a business. (Don’t forget those videos have been edited for several hours!) It does no good to your self esteem and may not enhance your unique beauty blindly following what those beauty gurus do on the camera. Use those resources wisely for the sake of true beauty. Know yourself well enough first before learning so much about and from other people.

📐📏教學心得📐📏有準備 沒脾氣

吾的脾氣一向不好。

重讀journals,反覆檢討,發現脾氣的源頭多是自己的準備不足:事情沒準備好,plan B也沒有準備好。

這一點是吾在補習期間領悟到的。

偶然忘了規劃講學流程,或在排序上判斷錯誤,外加學生偷懶沒完成功課,或走神沒聽好講解,無法在課堂完成所有該做的講解,就會氣得冒煙。

生氣又怎樣?於事無補。

經驗老到的吾,早該預計到某些環節容易有阻滯。比如,解writing必定用較多時間,那應該先進行其他常規項目(檢閱作句),並將其他optional的task排在後面。

除非是個沒要求的人吧!要追求完美,又不想發脾氣,就要好好分析,繼而杜絕生氣的源頭。