最近欣賞的Youtuber — Olivia Ren

最近Olivia Ren的視頻看得很順心。
1. 喜歡她說話認真,誠懇。雖然不似專業主持人般流暢,但她每次都有條理地分享,即時修正小錯誤也不覺得突兀。
2. 過忙碌的博士生活亦不忽略對時尚和美麗的追求,如此平衡的發展是吾一直仰慕的。
3. 從她那些水準達寫真級別的照片,猜想她有一位很欣賞她而又伴隨左右,捕捉她一顰一笑的丈夫,被愛的女人情緒特別平和。(or is it the other way round? 柔順的女人得人愛?) 吾的情緒很變幻無常,所以很是欣賞那些鬆容面對大小挑戰的女生。
4. 她很高產,熱切地分享生活的大小趣事。曾經吾也堅持天天發帖,但被一次turn down打擊而掉失了野心。


 

繼「畢業前於文壇成名」之後,吾就沒有立下甚麼具時限性的目標,也就沒有甚麼創作時間表。每看到別人update,只會嘆息自己為何不如別人高產。

其實每一次消費(食物、衣服、化妝品、書本、音樂、電影、外出…),也值得一則或長或短的心得。勤加記錄,假以時日,也能建立一套受用於人的理論。

只是因為無法實現「畢業前於文壇成名」而就此罷筆,毋寧終止心與腦的生活。

看到別人充滿熱情的分享,吾是有嚮往之心的,這就代表吾是該走這樣的路吧。

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So I have downsized, why do I feel empty?

This sense of loss after some major decluttering comes from the fact that there is nothing more left to toss or donate or tidy. (This feeling is discussed in lightbycoco’s video as well.)

It’s a very common “syndrome” within the minimalist community and I want to say cheer to whoever suffering, because instead of falling back to the “comfort” offered by retail shopping and constant hauling, you opt to live with the agony and insist on finding out what you can do next.

I am no expert on this, but I guess one of the reasons for not missing an orientation in life is because you never think about what you really want to achieve and contribute to the world.

And you know what? This question has long been there — before you even started decluttering. It’s just that you didn’t get the time, space or energy to sit down and ask the question, “What is my intrinsic goal?” as you were occupied by keeping up with the trend and news.

Now that you are on a clean slate (Thanks to some serious downsizing work! Good job, by the way.), this question emerges. It’s nothing new. It’s just something you’ve never really attended to.

Don’t let this temporary emptiness fools you. It’s not that minimalism suddenly makes you a jaded person who loses his/her dream. It’s just the same feeling when we turn to page one of a new notebook.

You’ve bravely thrown away a messy notebook (your old life which is filled with bags of useless knickknacks and schedules of mindless fun). Take the next brave step by finding your life purpose.

It doesn’t matter if you have no clue how to make good use of this clean “notebook”. Get off the chair, have a taste of everything and experiment.

Embrace this emptiness and fill it up with the most meaningful activities even if you haven’t quite figured out your biggest passion. (But I’m quite sure we will find it much sooner than before as we allow less distractions in our lives.)

Mine is writing an autobiography and some personal reflections on life. What’s yours?

How to Be Neat (Quick Tips For People Who Feel Like a Mess)

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Space

1. Keep the inbox clean. How many unread e-mails are there? It is an honest reflection of how attentive you are to your life.

2. Read Konmari’s book and have a major decluttering project once and for all. Let your room breeeeeath!

3. Apply the “One In One Out” rule in all aspects of life. This is to guarantee the effort you’ve made on decluttering won’t go wasted. Remember: Say no to freebies and keep a minimal amount of possessions.

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Mind

4. Have a morning and night routine so to do things on an auto-pilot mode.  You will have more autonomy to your time because you do the same things and they take roughly the same time.

5. Guard what you read and listen to. Ignore ads around you. Quit watching reality shows or dramas that complicate your mind. No tabloids. (They make you feel like you know everything. If it is your sole source of information, you are looking at this world with very narrow lens.) Go through your subscription list and unsubscribe anything that is no longer relevant. Choose calming music over pop songs.

6. Take action! Keep short to-do lists and long inventories. The undone kill a lot of brain cells.

3 Current Favourite Young Ladies on YouTube

1. Melodee Morita

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— quality > quantity
One fascinating thing about this young lady is that she posted much less videos than other YouTubers who have similar view counts on their channels. Unlike some other YouTubers who earn view counts through consistent uploading, her nicely edited videos capture the hearts of viewers who come back even though she took a long hiatus. Since each time she comes back with something informative and enjoyable so it is worth the wait.
— mysterious
Even though her personal life is not very much disclosed on her twitter, Facebook page or instagram, it doesn’t affect her popularity. Given the convenience of the Internet, one can easily risk over sharing. Miss Morita has made the wise choice of not revealing too much though she may have receive more media coverage if she talks more about herself.
— consistency
The products she uses are pretty consistent. The curel exfoliating gel for example. The same handbag brand Samantha Vegas/Thavasa. I also admire the fact that she used the same Winnie the poon pounch over several years. (It was featured in her 2012 and 2014 What’s In My Bag videos.)

2. Melissa Alexandria

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— short and sweet
Especially for her beginning ones, Melissa’s videos mostly are under two-mintue long. She doesn’t include anything irrelevant to the video’s title or fabricate something just for the sake of expanding the content.
— genuine
The length of her videos shows how she puts her content over her form. She is so eager to share without overthinking if her videos are “qualified” as compared with existing ones on YouTube.
— cheerful greetings
Her videos always begin with a “Hi guys! I hope you are having a great day.” and end with a “Have an awesome day.” no matter how short they are, which brighten up my day each time I watch them.

3. Coco from lightbycoco

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— assertiveness
She speaks with such an assertiveness that viewers may not totally agree with her lifestyle, but are certainly convinced because she lives what she preaches.

The Messed Up Checklist

When your life is a mess, go through this checklist. Have you been…

_ eating outside alone for dinner although you have your own kitchen?
_ not exercising for over 1 week?
_ drinking less than 5 glasses of water?
_ having less than 6 hours of sleep?
_ not talking to family members for over 3 days?
_ not reading for over 1 week?
_ being addicted to at least 1 computer game?
_ spending more than 1 hour on social media (not for business purpose) in a day?
_ finding something new to watch before finishing all the downloaded shows?

No wonder you feel like a mess. You are malfunctioning!

實現少女夢

每個女生都有過少女夢。

夢想住在不一定很大,但每件物件都是自己精心挑選的屋子;

夢想有一班不一定能幫你解決難題,但肯隨時隨地聽你訴苦的好朋友;

夢想有一位不一定很多金,但愛你寵你的老公。

但不是每個人都能在成年後實現少女夢。

有些人隨少女期完結,也跟著掉失這夢,沒有多少人會堅持到底,寧願說這夢不實際,隨波逐流過庸俗的一生 ── 少女時的自己很鄙視的生活方式。

吾看,要實現少女夢,首先由屋子著手。

朋友和男友都是外界的,很難全盤控制,先研究自己能掌握的屋子吧!

買房子和裝修要有:

1. 金錢 (前提是有技能,再前提是要學習)

2. 健康 (身 = 行動力 + (自信)心 = 持續的行動力)

📌Get Things Done📌(7) But, Take a Break

When a rubber band loses elasticity, it loses its functionality. Men are likewise. There are motivational books or speakers trying to convince people not to take breaks, (and in that particular book that I’ve read, it refers to cigarette breaks) since the time can be massive when accumulated. I think those breaks are necessary escapes though.

It seems (or actually is, if you are referring to that particular moment when they smoke, or take other kinds of breaks) like people who are taking a few minutes off their work are not being productive, but in the long run, those breaks keep the production going because they may quit doing whatever they are supposed to do when they are overstressed.

Personally, daydreaming on the bus or the train is one of my favourite kinds of breaks. I prefer taking a bus just because it takes longer to reach the destination and so more time for me to wonder. Sure it is much faster to take the subway as it isn’t affected by any traffic jam, but by the same token, it allows me less “me time” to think as wildly as I like. For the record, my most brilliant creative ideas came to me while I was on the bus.

沒有彈性的橡根,便失去它的本能,人也是一樣。花盡心思填滿每分每秒,一點閒暇也不顧,日子會過得很繃緊,長此下去會影響健康,難以實行長遠計劃。

跟地鐵比較,還是喜歡巴士。跟沒有街燈的地底路相比,穿插於地面上的車水馬龍的確花更多時間,但在搖晃的巴士上,能孕育不少新奇想法啊!

發呆也是具生產潛力的浪費。只拿著成本效益這條算式做人,或會錯失美妙的機緣。