❤✨斷捨離心得❤✨ 為什麼拋棄它?

相信每位被斷捨離一學說激勵而翻遍全屋,查找並捨棄擱置已久的雜物的讀者,都同意decluttering令人精神爽利。

但這種清爽俐落的感覺,並非永久的,一旦物欲心起,自制力不足,又會摃回家一堆貨品,塞進好不容易才清理乾淨的位置。

吾早於2008年展開斷捨離行動,但仍然未能戒掉透過買東西來減壓的心癮, 所以久不久又要大清理一番。

為了避免重覆犯錯,買一些根本用不著的東西,吾決定為最近拋棄的物品做一些總結,列舉出它們的缺點, 讓自己對於「不應該再買的東西」(雷品) 有一個清楚的概念。

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1. 粉紅色百摺長裙

腰圍鬆、摺痕不明顯、 照片中顯得腳很短。

2. 肉色底紅花裙

可能因為用了不正確的清洗方法,布質已經很殘舊。

3. Axe femme 藍色連身裙

娃娃裝太可愛不適合吾。

4. 菠蘿花紋頭箍

頭箍上有豎起的蝴蝶結,太搶眼,不符合我低調的個性。

5. V領直紋中袖上衣

鬆身的V領衫太容易走光,而且也頗為殘舊了。

6. 黑色底紅花裙

花紋顯老。

7. 白色混麻?混紗?小外套

很扎肉,超級不舒服,拉黑這質地!

8. 白色緊身短裙

口袋的位置是毛毛造型,太性感,不適合我的個性。

9. 在出口店買的睡褲

雖然很舒服,但已縮水,仍在穿的話實在太自貶了。

10. 髮夾數個

不喜歡頭髮被硬物纏著,還是把頭髮吹鬆比較自在。

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以上就是最近被淘汰的物品及其原因,希望經過書寫的過程(吾可真是在筆記本先寫了個草稿),能強化記憶和後悔的感覺,日後遇到有這些特質的東西,就算再便宜也能夠冷靜以對。

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Make room for your dreams!

I paid a visit to my favourite YouTuber Melissa Alexnadira’s new webpage where she put on resources she created for personal development. Most of her work talks about setting goals and achieving them. I very much appreciate her passion and effort, but I think not everyone can benefit from her work because most people live in a mess.

Melissa asks people to picture their perfect life and write down their life goals. Then she tells people to break the big goals into small chunks. That’s a very classical tip offered by motivation gurus. But most people, people in reality, are too BUSY. Their schedules are too busy to allow themselves enough sleep, let alone fit in a daily task that pave the way towards reaching long term goals.

I am not making excuses for people who choose to lead a busy life. What I am suggesting is, motivation gurus can perhaps start their 101 with a lesson of decluttering and downsizing. The problem with those people is that they have too many physical stuff as well as the untangible like meetings, gatherings and shopping to do. If they simplify their world by limiting what they need to get by, their schedules will then have room for new projects.

Donating a Beloved Book

It was a picture of a blonde with blue headscarf, pearl earrings and pink lipstick — almost like a Vemeer’s. I was captivated at the first glance.

In the logic of “time first, money second”, I did not want to pay a visit to the book store every a few days just to patronise the art work and so I bought the book. I spent $131 just for a single page. It isn’t even on my bookshelf anymore for I have donated it to my secondary school art teacher. It’s now a minor asset of her art reference corner.

I didn’t regret buying or donating it as I read into the fate of the book. It can either sit on its bored owner’s dusty book shelf or once in a while be discovered by and inspire a group of art students.

I know how much I’d love to read an newly published illustration book rather than the older ones when I was a student. Of course I could see buying a book but not owning it until the end of my life as a waste of money, but it could also be a present from “the new me” to “the old me”.

💸My Old Spending Habit (2 of 2)💸The Turning Point

My first taste of how minimalism could bring clarity and focus in life was dated back to 2008. During my short immersion in Australia, I’ve experienced how little one actually needs in order to survive and be happy.

As an avid reader, I came across several books written by decluttering experts in Japan and they were great guides to decluttering but I wasn’t ready to fully implement minimalism yet.

Then quite unexpectedly, two months before my graduation, I suffered a setback in the love department. I was so heartbroken that I was forced to re-evaluate every single belief of mine because all along I was wired to think “he” was “the one”. Something must be wrong in my head and I needed to know what it was.

I was in desperately need to move on and start from a clean slate. So I pulled out all possessions and looked at them one by one. “Does it reflect my ideal self?” I asked. If it didn’t, I tossed it to the trolley which was filled with clothes, books and trinkets to be donated to the Salvatory Army.

It was one of the wisest decisions I made for myself because thanks to my determination to downsize my stuff, my two movings in 2011 and 2012 became much less of a burden. I didn’t have a crazy amount of boxes to pack and unpack.

💸My Old Spending Habit (1 of 2)💸

I am not being one of those self admitted shopaholics who take their syndrome proudly as a prize when I say this, but I used to be very, very lavish.

All my friends know my bad spending habit. When I went out, I would spend the last banknote in my purse. There had been times when there wasn’t enough bus fare left that I needed to borrow a few dollars from my friend.

It all started when I was twelve. I didn’t want to feel inferior with my affluent friend. Since we met at weekend for tutorial class, I bought a new T-shirt, vest or sweater every week just to keep up with her abundant closet!

Luckily this friendship didn’t last long, or else I would certainly be broke from the additional expenditure starting from the age of thirteen when I was introduced to k-pop by my friend.

Not many people listened to Korean music in Hong Kong in early 2000s and so Korean stars’ products weren’t that widely available. It was almost like an obligation as a fan to buy every spotted knickknack with a Korean star’s face printed on it. I could have paid the first instalment of a mortgage had I not spent all those money on H.O.T, Shinhwa and some other K-pop bands.

Things didn’t get any better when I was juggling the development of both the brain and the body throughout the four years in college. My thirst for cultural input got me hunting for books and video discs which might not be relevant to my profession. My poor understanding of my body shape and skin type, and most importantly the lies told by advertisers and my impressionability, fooled me into buying an abominable amount of products that didn’t serve me.

Principles I Observe while Decluttering My Wardrobe and Bookshelf

Since I live with my parents, I can only declutter my room. (When decluttering around others, hands off stuff that don’t belong to you to avoid arguments.) The two biggest compartments in my room are my wardrobe and book shelf.

In my wardrobe, I only keep items that flatter my physique.  Also, anything that I haven’t worn for over a year will go to the donation box.

On my book shelf, there are only books that can’t be borrowed from the library or with pictures that can’t be easily retrieved online. For those who find it hard to give away books, embrace the mindset that knowledge is meant to be shared so let the books be passed on. I also keep handwritten notes that I took when I was in college, but even those I gradually digitalised and got rid of the hard copies.