Make room for your dreams!

I paid a visit to my favourite YouTuber Melissa Alexnadira’s new webpage where she put on resources she created for personal development. Most of her work talks about setting goals and achieving them. I very much appreciate her passion and effort, but I think not everyone can benefit from her work because most people live in a mess.

Melissa asks people to picture their perfect life and write down their life goals. Then she tells people to break the big goals into small chunks. That’s a very classical tip offered by motivation gurus. But most people, people in reality, are too BUSY. Their schedules are too busy to allow themselves enough sleep, let alone fit in a daily task that pave the way towards reaching long term goals.

I am not making excuses for people who choose to lead a busy life. What I am suggesting is, motivation gurus can perhaps start their 101 with a lesson of decluttering and downsizing. The problem with those people is that they have too many physical stuff as well as the untangible like meetings, gatherings and shopping to do. If they simplify their world by limiting what they need to get by, their schedules will then have room for new projects.

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So I have downsized, why do I feel empty?

This sense of loss after some major decluttering comes from the fact that there is nothing more left to toss or donate or tidy. (This feeling is discussed in lightbycoco’s video as well.)

It’s a very common “syndrome” within the minimalist community and I want to say cheer to whoever suffering, because instead of falling back to the “comfort” offered by retail shopping and constant hauling, you opt to live with the agony and insist on finding out what you can do next.

I am no expert on this, but I guess one of the reasons for not missing an orientation in life is because you never think about what you really want to achieve and contribute to the world.

And you know what? This question has long been there — before you even started decluttering. It’s just that you didn’t get the time, space or energy to sit down and ask the question, “What is my intrinsic goal?” as you were occupied by keeping up with the trend and news.

Now that you are on a clean slate (Thanks to some serious downsizing work! Good job, by the way.), this question emerges. It’s nothing new. It’s just something you’ve never really attended to.

Don’t let this temporary emptiness fools you. It’s not that minimalism suddenly makes you a jaded person who loses his/her dream. It’s just the same feeling when we turn to page one of a new notebook.

You’ve bravely thrown away a messy notebook (your old life which is filled with bags of useless knickknacks and schedules of mindless fun). Take the next brave step by finding your life purpose.

It doesn’t matter if you have no clue how to make good use of this clean “notebook”. Get off the chair, have a taste of everything and experiment.

Embrace this emptiness and fill it up with the most meaningful activities even if you haven’t quite figured out your biggest passion. (But I’m quite sure we will find it much sooner than before as we allow less distractions in our lives.)

Mine is writing an autobiography and some personal reflections on life. What’s yours?

If You Live Right, You’ll Have Time to Write

Every time I stumbled upon blogs which are updated frequently, I wonder, “How can they have such an ample amount of time?”

Then I study successful people, living and dead, whose productivity has made huge contribution to their own domain and discover the one trait in each of them: they spend significantly less time on entertainment than regular people.

While most people sleep in, shop online, play games, chit chat, watch flick and so, those who take their projects seriously fill their schedules first with the progress goals so there is no way for distractions to squeeze in.

As I came across with the idea of minimalism, it dawned do me that my convoluted writing could be a reflection of my life! There were too many things that seemed fun but didn’t really give me any joy eventually that stole away my time to live my life to its fullest and share my story with the world.

Then I started re-prioritizing. I crossed out activities that didn’t contribute to my long-term goal and built up a strong foundation that’s favourable to my writing (like going to bed early, doing yoga and eating right).

I started this year with two calendars, one to mark the chain actions of writing and one for yoga practice. It was until the 4th/5th month I noticed a co-relation: The day I went to a yoga class and got my blood circulation going instead of sitting there watching entertainment news and coveting was usually the day I wrote too.

So my answer to the earlier question is: They have time to write because they are living right.

 📝女文青談寫📝來檢討吾的寫作習慣

現在的工作,工時不定,想達成以寫作為生的目標,得有一套時間運用的規範。在此之前需要好好檢討一下吾從寫的一切。

寫作主題:

  • 紀錄和反思生活的種種現象
  • 研究如何提升生活質素

磨練地方:

  1. 文筆 (中:詞語,句法。英:詞語) by 讀優質文章
  2. 寫作速度 by 多寫,拿感覺
  3. 執行力 (無時無刻都有點子,但缺乏把點子組織成文的時間表)

時間善用:

  • block hours: 週三六日晚
  • 在公司(空閒時)把紙本筆記數位化
  • 在家裡修改初稿
  • 在街外則閱讀
  • 與其在車上滑手機或睡前滑pad,不如重讀筆記、再次思考、補充內容、潤飾文句

實現少女夢

每個女生都有過少女夢。

夢想住在不一定很大,但每件物件都是自己精心挑選的屋子;

夢想有一班不一定能幫你解決難題,但肯隨時隨地聽你訴苦的好朋友;

夢想有一位不一定很多金,但愛你寵你的老公。

但不是每個人都能在成年後實現少女夢。

有些人隨少女期完結,也跟著掉失這夢,沒有多少人會堅持到底,寧願說這夢不實際,隨波逐流過庸俗的一生 ── 少女時的自己很鄙視的生活方式。

吾看,要實現少女夢,首先由屋子著手。

朋友和男友都是外界的,很難全盤控制,先研究自己能掌握的屋子吧!

買房子和裝修要有:

1. 金錢 (前提是有技能,再前提是要學習)

2. 健康 (身 = 行動力 + (自信)心 = 持續的行動力)

📌Get Things Done📌(9) Journaling

成年後所看的成功學書本能堆出一座山吧。總括來說成功的鐵三角是:規劃、執行、檢討,而確保這三者緊密聯繫的工具就是看起來很平凡但其價值取決於其用家的筆記本。

一疊潔白而紋理整齊,暗示無限可能的紙張,配上或甜美花俏,或高雅幹練的硬皮封套,筆記本就是有魅力教我們在還有存貨的情況下再買一本。

不過,筆記本收藏家,不一定是筆記本活用家,事實上,大多數的筆記本只寫了頭三數頁,便淪為家中的雞肋。為甚麼呢?因為大家都有一個繆誤,就是筆記本一定要是漂漂亮亮的,所以只在規劃的時候用到它,忽略了它在執行和檢討計劃時的功效。

一般人只會在筆記本寫下年度目標或當天任務,用法跟行事曆沒兩樣,成功者則懂得在筆記本記錄工作進度,以及過程中的身理和心理狀態。作息時間、飲食內容、運動時間、點子、外來的知識,都是成功者喜歡記錄的項目。

記下這些珍貴的資料,等於擁有一本「自我觀察筆記本」,讓你審視每個行動及其結果,細心研究哪些該部留、哪些該修改、哪些該捨棄。

不過,在擴展筆記本的用途之前,先養成隨身帶備筆記本的習慣吧。很多人沒執行的任務其實都是被遺忘的願望。寫下的志向,必需經常翻閱,大腦才不會忘掉,所以筆記本應放在伸手可及的位置。

This is the end of the Get Things Done series. I hope you have enjoyed it and hopefully found some ideas useful. Thanks for reading till the end. You deserve to be a winner!

📌Get Things Done📌(8) Replicate Your Success

Review your life and recall any achievements regardless of its scale, because success, big or small, is made up of the same thing: passion, practice and persistence.

If you have kept your promise and accomplished a task singlehandedly even for one time, you can apply the same effort to another task.

In my notebook, I write down anecdotes like choosing a greek salad over a frappuccino at the coffee shop so as to remind myself my capability to make conscious choices.

最近,房間一隅擺了個紙袋,一個剪裁、紙質、版面都很簡潔的紙袋,我用它來盛載空瓶子。看著它變滿,也彷彿看到自己為保養所付出的努力,並提醒自己,要把這份努力套用於生命中其他事務上。