女文青閱讀筆記📚《穿著,決定你的氣場》( 霜鳥MAKIKO)

有些人會靠佈置家居來feel good,有些人會靠美食來feel good,《穿著,決定你的氣場》則是教大家以裝扮入手,這亦是現代人普遍採用的方法。衫褲鞋襪有平有貴,門檻較低,造就時裝店林立的今天。

不過,大多數人置裝的時候都不加思索,到了出門的時候總是找不到合心意的衣服,結果又跑到店裡買買買,務求覓得令自己美美帥帥的衣服。

本書作者霜鳥MAKIKO極力反對這種漫無目的的搜羅。她認為,亂買衣服之後發現不合適的話,會產生挫折感,所以買衣服前要多了解自己。由此她提出以下要點:

  • 做剪貼簿去了解自我風格的
  • 穿上適合自己現在的年齡,身型,以及經常出沒的場合的衣飾
  • 因應自己想呈現的感覺(專業還是溫暖?)來決定穿什麼
  • 高明的搭配是從配件下手
  • 學習收藏和保養衣物的方法 (毛衣要摺疊不要掛、使用合適的衣架、白衣局部用手洗就好、用刷子清潔大衣) —— 仔細和認真對待衣物就是幸運的開始
  • 質>量
  • 內衣是基礎
  • 把不合身的衣服拿去裁剪
  • 頭髮、指甲、牙齒也要保養
  • 買衣服是為了換掉現有衣服,還是添購新衣?如果是為了換掉現在的衣服,請去思考舊衣的缺點,這樣才會進步  

作者既是位造型師,視打扮為調整心情和增加自信的最強外力,致力於協助大眾尋找「幸運服」也是很自然的事。但認真打理衣櫥之餘,我們亦不能將活著的力量全盤托附於衣服之上。

本書談論發掘、穿上、保養幸運服的種種,最終目的是增加自信心,因為有了自信心,才能綻放笑容,招來貴人,受他人重視以及穫得其他好處。也就是說,幸福,並非打扮的功勞,而是有賴一個人的自信心!

不論我們掌握了多少打扮的要訣,最終也可能因為自信不足而選擇以平庸的裝束面世,躲在人群之中。序文中馬美怡小姐說得很對,一個人亮眼與否,取決於他在人前展現自己的意願。時裝振奮人心的威力,應該因人而異吧!作者提到的以下效果,就由讀者自己去體會了。

  • 感謝的心蘊含對衣服的愛惜之情,相對地自己的身心也能夠獲得療癒
  • 情緒焦慮不安時,幸運服能在關鍵時撫平你的情緒獲得喘息的空間

相比衣著,我認為一個人的神情與姿態更加影響他給別人的形象,而人的每個舉手投足,除了受當日的穿著影響,也會由內部環境下意識地表現出來的。打扮亮麗的人未必能夠打動人心,很可能是因為他把所有心思花在時尚潮流之上,沒有時間關注生命裡其他的課題,而顯得空洞無聊。

認真打扮是珍重生活的一種體現,但絕對不是幸福唯一的準則。希望大家好好享受打扮的樂趣,亦不忘培養其他愛好,持續開闊眼界和視野,因為吾相信,多姿多采的人生才擁有恆久的氣場。

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Donating a Beloved Book

It was a picture of a blonde with blue headscarf, pearl earrings and pink lipstick — almost like a Vemeer’s. I was captivated at the first glance.

In the logic of “time first, money second”, I did not want to pay a visit to the book store every a few days just to patronise the art work and so I bought the book. I spent $131 just for a single page. It isn’t even on my bookshelf anymore for I have donated it to my secondary school art teacher. It’s now a minor asset of her art reference corner.

I didn’t regret buying or donating it as I read into the fate of the book. It can either sit on its bored owner’s dusty book shelf or once in a while be discovered by and inspire a group of art students.

I know how much I’d love to read an newly published illustration book rather than the older ones when I was a student. Of course I could see buying a book but not owning it until the end of my life as a waste of money, but it could also be a present from “the new me” to “the old me”.

Ethical Shopping (My First Purchase After A Year-long Book Detox)

During my gap year/spiritual journey in 2011-2012, I found the dharma talks given by Ching Kung master (a Chinese Buddhist monk) so enriching that I didn’t feel like reading anything secular, except for teaching purpose (like the poems and short stories covered in the syllabus of HKDSE English Literature).

During that period of time, it was kind of a guilty pleasure for me to buy this book called Bonjour, Happiness. To be honest, I didn’t even need this book, as I considered myself quite qualified as a French in most aspects of my lifestyle. If it doesn’t cover anything that I don’t know already, why did I buy it?

Well, I spent half an afternoon reading in an air-conditioned, well-lit and spacious bookstore, so it would be morally wrong to walk out of it without leaving anything behind aside from a few strings of hair from the mindless brushing and twirling while reading… I am kidding!

The true reason was, I wanted to be an ethical buyer. As a minimalist, I believe I bear a certain degree of responsibility in supporting the ideas of finding happiness in a less materialistic approach as preached by the author Jamie Cat Callan.

Before that, I hadn’t really picked up a book and walked to the counter for nearly a year. There was only this one time when I wandered around a nearby district and discovered an underground used bookstore with over ten cats lying and jumping around.

I don’t want this place, the home of those cats, to close down but I know it probably will someday as people are less inclined to paperbacks. I want to help with the rent, even by just a few pennies. Besides the boss kindly directed me how to get to my destination. In return I bought a few used books there.

Another example of ethical shopping was I bought a packet of baking soda for $10 at a bakery supply store when I could get the exact same box for $9.5 at a chained supermarket. To which store my money goes to matters because each dollar speaks for what I support. I wanted to support a local store which specialised in baking so I opted to spend my money there.

Compared to this guy here in Hong Kong who started his one-man campaign of not buying things from corporation chain stores for a year, I am only doing so little.

I hope by sharing how little we can do to implement the notion of ethical shopping that more people will join the league and make this world a kinder place.

📚女文青閱讀筆記📚Laduree 精美彩色書 fine art of living

下班後運動前到誠品走一趟。想買的日本時裝雜誌《美欣百花》還沒有貨,卻一本粉紅色的,拿上手蠻重的方形書吸引著。通常在書店以透明膠袋包裹的書本都是貴價書,這本也是。(標價HKD350…)

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為了節省多餘開支,早日「上車」(香港人指的首次置業),吾只好期盼聖誕老人送一個copy。

吾不爽地放下,卻又馬上以手機google國外讀者的book reviews,找來一些插圖:

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光是這些插圖,相信就不會失望了。

從《法國女人不會胖》計起,「法國生活美學」為題的書而風行近十年了吧?直到今時今日大家依家嚮往著有如神話般的法式生活,大概是因為這種活在當下的活法「知易行難」,因而是個讀者們永恆的想像?

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📋資訊精良計劃 Information Management📋(5) 如何節省讀書時間

看書一定要學會撮取自己需要的部份。

為了照顧大眾的需要,工具書會盡量擴大涵蓋範圍,搏取更多讀者購買。

精明的讀者,要很清楚並選取自己所需要的部份來跳讀。

根據個人讀書經驗,現在的工具書,喜以一套獨特的思考模式為題,再以大小故事印證這套觀念。

現代人消化不了沒副標題的書,因此,編輯會按文章大意設立標題。

那麼,就算不看那些佔據七成內容(且不知是真有其事還是作者吹噓)的故事,光看目錄便能掌握作者的見解。

尤其是一直信服的作者所出的新著作,真的大可安心只讀目錄頁,若有興趣才細讀其中的章節。

不過呢,一些聰明的編輯已開始用問題的形式立副標題了。例如把「睡眠能增加瘦素」的標題寫成「如何睡著瘦?」,此時,就不得不老實翻書了。

📋資訊精良計劃 Information Management📋(4) 精挑好書

精打細算,慎買書本,不是為了節省金錢這麼簡單,更重要的是以防接受有礙消化的資訊。

藥,能醫人亦能毒人,同理,劣質書本也害人不淺。

有些書,根本稱不上是書,當中的理念經不起考驗,只不過是「紙版資訊」。

吃藥,最好經醫生處方。 看書,也最好經老師推薦。

自行挑選的書籍,請務必從頭到尾,完完整整地讀。

有些看似離經背道的情節,可能是作者設計的反面教材,若你沒讀到角色受教訓的情節便棄讀,可能會曲解作者的意思啊。

圖書館尋書無穫

在圖書館花了半小時才選到兩本書,才發現我喜歡看的書窄了很多。

  • 以前見一本借一本的兩性關係書和女性修養書,現在已經看膩了。
  • 對談寫作的書也失去熱忱,覺得累積經驗比空談理論為上。
  • 沒耐性讀藉小故事講大道理的書。看故事我會選經典文學,要啟示我會選直接傳授行動計劃的self help,我不要內容疑似虛構的心靈雞湯。
  • 本地半藝人半作者的散文連翻看的意欲也沒有。香港人寫的都是表面現象,文字很浮躁;人家台灣人會深入觀察一件事才下結論,或不下結論只聊感覺。
  • 林徽茵、張愛玲等才女的作品也沒興趣。雖知她們的經歷很豐富,但對於上個世紀的用字很不習慣。
  • 過份著重環境描述的日本文學也令人打呵欠。

嚴苛得一本書也沒借到。要為省下時間而讚自己精明嗎?還是應該為偏讀落得的下場準備呢?