成功學的恐嚇

網絡充斥著的成功學教誨,每天在恐嚇大家,若然選擇安逸,他日便會很艱辛。

先別被寫手尖銳的措詞嚇倒。撫心自問,現在的吾不夠辛勞嗎?

吾不去爭取去吃八國料理,也不代表吾就是在坐等上天掉餡餅呀。

吾不過是想放棄三四成的物慾,換取三四成喘息的機會。

吾的努力既不屬於猛開火力那一種,也不是合格就好的取巧態度。

我不過想拿捏出一個中庸的力度,但主流作家都在譴責想放鬆的人。

不能指望會有誰出一本書來教導這一方面的做法,唯有自己好好揣摩了……

What Is Stealing Your Time?

One of the hardest things to achieve in life is to live one day at a time while also making sure the big project is moving forward. Most people enjoy the moment at the cost of tomorrow’s happiness. What smart people do is they can identify what gives pleasure to the present self AND contributes to the betterment of the future self as well. I wasn’t a smart girl but I came up with the follow tips through numerous trial-and-error.

1. The unexpected

I can make a whole cabinet of cases where I get caught up by the unexpected. One time my wallet was stained with corrective pen mark and I tried to save it with my nail polish remover and guess what? I messed up my newly done manicure.

There was this other morning when I was rest assured that the beetroot in my lunch box wouldn’t fall out but its juice somehow leaked out and ruined the inner-lining of my handbag.

Don’t you wanna curse when things like these happen?

To dodge the unexpected, I have come up with some tricks and I’d love to share here with you now.

One, always estimate how crowded the subway will be before heading out. Make plans accordingly, like not to wear a certain type of shoes or coats.

Birthday dinners, business luncheons or friends asking for help can really take up my creative hours. That’s why I prefer setting one or two daily missions, so small that it’s impossible not to achieve, to uphold my commitment. (Remember, self confidence is built upon keeping our own promises.)

2. Mindless Entertainment

I am sort of an introvert and I seldom attend to social events but it doesn’t necessarily mean I have more time than others. I don’t spend my time shopping or texting but online forums and video sharing platforms are equally time-consuming.

Starting off my job-free morning with a bowl of fruits and a glass of diluted original westsoy milk, I could have enjoyed my breakfast like a royal lady and let my thoughts subsided. Then I made the worst move — logging onto YouTube, the 24-hour theme park that doesn’t require an entry ticket.

Even though I was watching nothing but educational videos, I could have done better as to go totally no-screen while eating. I know I will feel better if I do so but looking at anything but the food on the plate is a bad habit that takes time to break.

I am glad to have outgrown my childhood when my days were structured by the television programs but I have to admit there are moments when my mind is weak and give in to shows like The Hill. Then I ask myself, you know what’s worse than being a time waster on those reality shows? Watching how they play themselves as time wasters.

We all know what’s the good stuff to read but after a long day of work, those handy classics and bestsellers can be daunting tasks. Most people would rather turn off their mind and find distractions than to contemplate over subjects that truly matter to humanity.

3. Fatigue and sickness

The previous point is about a weak mind and this one is more obvious — our wellbeing. Health is the foundation of everything (admittedly though some writers sacrifice their health for their legacy) so we have to do our best to take care of our body. Getting enough sleep can guarantee us strong immunity. Then, wash our hands often or use hand sanitisers and keep warm in the winter. These alone are enough to keep the doctor away.

4. Noisy environment

(This section is mostly about the Hong Kong city, but I am sure anyone who lives in developed cities can relate to.)

Hong Kong is a very safe city to live in because there are people everywhere, but by the same token, it can be quite suffocating. The amount of people I meet in a day here can easily amount to those I met in Australia the whole trip combined.

The subway is probably the crowded space of all. Apparently the administrative guys feel like assigning a few platform assistants to facilitate passengers getting onboard. But as loudly as they speak, people who elbow in are gonna elbow their way out so those assistants are not doing much other than increasing the underground noise pollution.

Ever since the birth of free tabloids, the pavements in residential and commercial areas (meaning everywhere) has become even more crowded. I was lucky enough to have experienced the city’s morning serenity when I was a school girl. If I had been born ten years later, I wouldn’t have the fortune to emerge in that peaceful period of a day. Now I feel like I am in an army or something walking down the street as I am not allowed to stop walking. Every time when my shoe strap falls out or my purse drops that I have to stop walking and pick it up, I have the worst feeling ever because it’s like being washed by a sea of people around you.

It doesn’t get any better indoor. The second you step into a fashion boutique, those salespersons will tell you what kind of clothes are on sale right now, regardless of what you truly need. Whatever you touches, they will immediately inform you in what other colours that piece of clothing is in stock. Very rarely do they let their potential customers to study their garments and make decisions on their own. Even in a cultural event like the book fair, people push their way through and move around with their bags hitting others unapologetically. Aren’t book lovers supposed to be more patient?

I have moved for almost ten times in the city and in every apartment I hear people upstairs or downstairs practice their music instruments. Mind you, it’s not performance but practice. Isn’t it doomed to be disturbed living in Hong Kong? How can elegance be possibly cultivated and long projects that take concentration to be completed in such a chaos?

DAISO products aren’t cheap in our country

Daiso (also known as “the dollar shop”) is a Japanese home supply store when in fact most of the products are made in China. 

I did a search on taobao (an online shopping platform mainly used by people living in China), and I was surprised to see that the same products I found in Hong Kong DAISO stores are sold for double prices in the mainland!

And I thought Hong Kong people were paying a third of the price more than the original price in Japan due to exchange rate. Apparently mainlanders are paying even more than us!

💄愛美女文青💄淺談頭髮保養

走在街上,吾最常做的事,是觀察路人的頭顱。

比起廣告牌那些浮誇標語和帥氣模特兒,吾對路人的頭髮更感興趣。

你有沒有發覺,頭髮健康的人越來越少,頭髮稀薄亦漸逾年輕化?

健康的頭髮,不是具有光澤感而已,也要夠豐厚,不能夾雜幼小的毛。

很多人塗抹美髮油,企圖收服頭頂那些「天線」,殊知那是毛囊不健康,頭髮生長在狹窄的空間出現的情況。

簡單來說,那些幼毛是發育不良的頭髮,想解決這問題,並不是從頭髮的表面做功夫的,而是醫治沒生氣的頭皮。

道理跟護理皮膚是一樣的,清潔是第一步,之後才談滋養。

草率地洗頭,即使用再昂貴的生髮水也是枉然的,正如你不會往還沒有卸妝的臉塗精華液一樣。

那麼,要怎樣洗頭才算是正確?當然是用合適頭皮狀況的產品,慢慢洗,耐心地洗。

洗完頭不久後頭皮就出油的產品並不適合你,變得乾燥痕癢的亦不合,要用找老公的耐性去找保持頭皮油水平衡的洗髮水。

此外,吹頭時也要注意熱風的溫度,市面上就有自動調溫的智能風筒了。

去除污穢之後,就要滋養了,我相信跟身體其他部位一樣,滋養要由內到外的。

過度出油會嚴重影響頭皮健康,我主張從飲食下手,好好補充水份,多吃降火食物。

高脂和上火的食物飲料如火鍋咖啡要少吃,多食用滋潤內臟的中式湯品。

也要多加留意糖份的攝取,它會刺激皮脂線的。

靈魂也需要美容

吾最近發現,每天出入的地鐵站中,看到所有廣告全和美容有關。真的很誇張!

由此可見,現今世代的女性對美麗的追求之熱切,同時,那些不熱衷於打扮的女士所受到的壓力亦加劇,要麼加入成為愛美一族,要麼需要練就強大的內心,才能抵受社會對她們的要求或期待。

相比起外貌上的整修,吾認為心靈上的整修更為重要,因為內在是一切行為的基石。假如我們的內心是一塊土壤,我們的行為就是這塊土壤所種出來的花。想種出漂亮的花朵,必需維持土壤的營養。外在的打扮,有如修葺雜草,雖然能夠維持外觀,但如果長期忽略土壤的質地,日後就難以種出漂亮的花朵。

那麼,如何才能保養我們的內心呢?是不是存好心,做好事,多做義工活動,多說好話嗎?這些活動的確能快速提升我們的自信,但吾認為更徹底地提高自信心的方法,是面對自己的缺點,然後接納它,同時為自己找方法改善這些缺點,或者將這些缺點升華成優點。例如,你是一個多愁善感,情緒很複雜的人,就去訓練自己的邏輯思維,你亦可以善用自身的特質,發揮那些需要用到這種特質的興趣,例如畫畫、唱歌、跳舞等等。

不過上述的方法猶如一個大project,需要一定的時間才能看到效果的,在還未看到效果之前,人們很容易會放棄自暴自棄,此時,我們需要加倍地愛自己。很多人以為愛自己是自私的行為,其實我們必須要愛自己,才有餘力去愛其他人。不懂得真正愛自己的人,對別人所付出的愛,要麼就太過多令對方窒息,要麼就太過少令對方沒有安全感。簡單來說,就是不懂得如何拿捏愛的分量。純粹地感情用事,沒有智慧的,就不是愛。

一個不懂英文的人又如何教會別人說英語呢?同理,我們必須先學習愛自己。千萬不要被廣告誤導。愛自己並不直接等於給自己穿華衣、吃美食、住豪宅。因為如果自己沒有經濟能力,卻偏要給自己買這些東西,其實是縱容自己去揮霍,而揮霍實在這是一種罪。

愛自己其實很簡單,就是給自己需要的東西,給自己適當的東西;知道自己需要遠離什麼,然後理智地離開什麼。有了這個生活基礎,我們散發出來的,才是正能量,這個時候給予別人的能量,別人才真正受用。

滑手機奪去思考的空間

我們都太習慣跟智能手機出雙入對。

早上一睜開眼那一刻、上小號的幾秒鐘或上大號的幾分鐘、乘車的半小時至一小時、工作期間的每個空檔、乃至臨睡前僅餘的精力都獻給它。

也不是有甚麼世界大事或本地消息需要跟進,找我們聊天的人也不是告急些甚麼,我們只是想填滿生活上每吋空白。

但唯有留白的時空,意識才得以回復明朗。

終日滑手機,傷眼之餘,也失去了整頓思維的機會。

People Praise Products

People born and raised in this consumerist age give so much credit to products. Just take a look at the bank of haul and reviewing kind of videos!

We deploy our characters through products we keep around us, rather than the work we do.

Is it because most of us are employed to do uncreative work?